Episode 12

Published on:

29th Oct 2023

S1:E12 Afraid of your boss?

We are trained to unconditionally respect our elders. But this creates problems for us as adults. What if our supervisor is not setting us up for success? Unconditional deference to our boss can result in overworking, anxiety, unfairness, and being stalled in your career.

This episode connects the dots on why so many Asians feel this way, and more importantly how to stop the cycle of being afraid of our supervisors and not advocating for ourselves.

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[00:00] Teaser

[01:16] Episode 12 Intro

[02:44] Scary adults?

[04:30] Social Anxiety

[05:42] Fear of authority figures

[08:18] Remembering adults in your past

[11:01] Bullied for not speaking English well

[11:58] Stern Chinese School Teacher

[14:14] Yelled at for being sick

[16:19] Feeling like a bad daughter

[19:29] Fear of disappointing our parents

[20:38] BREAK

[21:17] Filial Piety Gone Wrong

[21:30] Afraid to Disappoint Your Boss

[23:37] Afraid to Speak up with Your Boss

[25:16] Looking to Your Boss for Approval

[28:38] Thinking You are Not Enough

[28:38] Thinking You are Not Enough

[29:26] The Key to Freedom

[32:21] Affirmation

[36:34] Preview of Episode 13

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Theme Song: Imagine by Zoo

Mid-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

Affirmation Song: Ghost by Piano Yeti

Post-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

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About the Podcast

Asians Breaking Ceilings
Building unapologetic confidence in AAPI women
Building unapologetic confidence in AAPI professionals

Through systematic training Jeanny, Founder of BambooMyth.com will outline step by step how to transform overwhelm and burnout to taking ownership of your leadership and career design. Tapping into her experience coaching over 300+ AAPI women and speaking at dozens of Fortune 500 companies, including Amazon, Uber, KPMG, Salesforce, and Cisco, she reveals the strategies needed to overcome ingrained cultural norms that have become a roadblock to greater success.

Many of us grew up with cultural norms like shaming, perfectionism, and filial piety that no longer serve us. We might look successful on the outside, but lack confidence to advocate for ourselves. We end up invisible and over-worked. That changes today. Jeanny will share with you how to finally unleash your confidence, how to speak up, and live your leadership potential in your career and life. Whether you want a promotion, new role, or the courage to start your side-hustle, you'll be empowered from within.

This podcast has been a decade in the making. It all started when I got Stage 2 breast cancer as a 40 year-old single mom and career woman. I had not 1, but 3 tumors and my doctor said it was stress-induced. She asked me why. I said, "I'm Asian." The amazing medical team saved my life and this was my wake-up call to start living differently. Over the next decade, I learned to stop burnout through managing self-doubt, constant guilt, and debilitating people-pleasing habits.

New episodes are released every Sunday night at 5pm Pacific. Most will be solo episodes with occasional guests and livestreams to include audience interactions.

Full Transcripts availble for every episode at AsiansBreakingCeilings.com

About your host

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Jeanny Chai

BambooMyth.com Founder, coach & speaker, Jeanny Chai helps Asian American women find their worth from within and “Live Their Leadership Potential” by reframing the cultural priorities that have been given to us. She believes that breaking through the Bamboo Ceiling is an internal quest and only by thinking differently that we can create a new norm. She has been invited to speak at companies including Salesforce, Oracle, KPMG, HP and has been featured in Fortune Magazine, NBC News, and USA Today.

Drawing from powerful personal experiences that include “shaming” her family by not attending medical school after graduating from Stanford, raising four children and becoming known as a successful business development professional in Silicon Valley, Jeanny has devoted herself to helping Asian Americans find their confidence from within.
It took Jeanny 3 breast cancer tumors and a divorce to come into the realization of how she could flourish, and she is dedicated to saving other women the pain of having to go through great adversity to reach the point of personal transformation.

Read more about Jeanny’s impact and work at www.BambooMyth.com